Our Poly Life

Our life as a Polyamorous Quad, with 10 kids.

TMI Tuesday #160

on November 11, 2008

“We kiss and tell!”



1. Ever been skinny dipping?

LG~ yes, but only in the last few years.  It was liberating.

T~ Yes


2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?

LG~ With Temptress, as often as possible!  But with the guys, it ALWAYS leads somewhere; it’s a foregone conclusion.

T~ Almost daily, or whenever she’ll let me.


3.  On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life?  (1=lowest; 10=highest) Do you think “content” and “happy” are the same thing?

LG~ I’d say an 8.5 most of the time.  I can spike to a 13, but it rarely ever drops below a 6 and that is withstanding severe stressors.  And no, I don’t think content and happy are the same thing, and I’ll make this brief because I could seriously write an entire blog on this point… But I think contentment is a settled feeling, a resolve that you are moving in the right direction, have made good choices, and are pursuing daily happiness.  Whereas happiness is more of a shifting mood, a feeling in the moment; an ephemeral state when all circumstances seem to shift into a place in the happenstance.  Just don’t get me started on the difference between connotation and denotation..

T~ Its not a fair scale; it varies from day to day.  Like life, contentment is variable.  If I stayed within the scale of 1-10, there are many days I’m a ten, and other days I’m a three.  I don’t believe contentment and happiness are the same thing, but they are partners.  Without one, it is difficult to have the other.


4.  What do you do to relieve stress?

LG~ I head for the bathtub!  Long, hot, baths with essential oils and salts.  I can’t do bubbles because we have jets, so I slink in with a book or some relaxing jazz and loose myself in the hum.

T~ Take Goddess to bed!


5.  What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide they were “the one?”

LG~ Well, the man has lots of good traits, but I didn’t decide he was “the one” as for nearly two decades he was “the only one.”

T~ He had all of the qualities I was looking for in a man at that time; compassion, honesty, he was stable, kind.  He was the kind of person I thought I could spend the rest of my life with.


Bonus.  How old were you when you first had sex.  (Positive responses here…)

LG~ First experience I was 19 – and it was a very positive experience.

T~ I was 17.


2 responses to “TMI Tuesday #160

  1. One of the lovely things about my partner C is that I feel free to take a kiss or makeout session as far as I want, and she feels the freedom to do the same thing, and neither of us take offense when the other isn’t “in the mood”.
    I *knew* that getting-wiser-as-I-get-older thing would come in handy some day.

  2. My first sexual experience was…unusual. Positive, certainly, but unusual. More about that another time.

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